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My guest today is my good friend Author Janet Tronstad of the Dry Creek series. If you haven’t read any of her books, you should! Fun and fast-paced and genuine. I love ficitonal Dry Creek, Montana! Today Janet tells us some about her characters and about her life. She also asks some poignant questions at the end that I hope you’ll comment about. Here’s Janet:<\/span><\/p>\n

“Strong Mothers, Strong Sons<\/p>\n

In my recent series, Return to Dry Creek, I tell the story of Gracie Stone and her three sons.\u00a0 The series begins when Gracie returns to Dry Creek after serving a jail term for the murder of her abusive husband. Readers quickly learn in the series that Gracie did not kill her husband, but she believed one of her sons had done so.\u00a0 She went to prison because she felt guilty for not taking her sons away from their father. She assumed that decision permitted the kind of violence that drove a young boy to murder.<\/p>\n

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This series has been so interesting for me to write because I know the difficulties that families can face.<\/strong> Verbal abuse, physical abuse \u2013 they are hard for children to understand.\u00a0 And I had to think of how to show the grown sons processing their feelings about their father\u2019s abuse as they, one by one, come home to work on the family ranch.<\/p>\n

One way I showed their struggle throughout the four books was to have an ongoing task.\u00a0 They needed to think of some words to put on a marker for their father\u2019s grave.\u00a0 One son wanted to only put the man\u2019s name, the other wanted to disown the man through words, a third just wanted to say he wished things had been different.<\/p>\n

I realized as the sons faced their dilemma that most of us need to find, at various times, words to describe a relationship that has been painful to us. <\/strong>Whether it\u2019s a parent\u2019s epitaph or something as simple as finding a birthday card for a sibling who is estranged from us.\u00a0 It is all difficult.<\/p>\n

I wouldn\u2019t talk about this topic on all blogs, but I know Lyn specializes in strong women and coping with adversity is the first way we become strong<\/p>\n

So I\u2019ll be the first to raise my hand here and acknowledge that I have a brother who is not talking to me.\u00a0 Every year I look for a birthday card that has words to suit our relationship.<\/p>\n

I\u2019ll wager that most people have a sibling, an old friend, an ex, or some person for whom they chose their words carefully (so as not to offend or seem na\u00efve).\u00a0 If you do, I\u2019d love it if you\u2019d share.<\/p>\n

Also does anyone have some good tips on what to say when (like in these books) the abusive one is dead and the family still feels the need for an epitaph?<\/p>\n

Does one just go with the truth or abstain from saying much? Any thoughts as to what the sons should say?”–Janet<\/p>\n

A difficult problem, Janet. I faced a similar one when my mother began sinking into dementia and paranoia. What does one say to someone you love when they become irrational?<\/span><\/p>\n

I hope you’ll take this opportunity to share how you have handled something like this. Perhaps you can help someone else. –Lyn<\/span><\/p>\n

To find out more about Janet, drop by www.JanetTronstad.com<\/a>
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