Lyn Asks: Are you like your siblings or different? — 26 Comments

  1. First the adoption question. My cousin Barb is adopted, but didn’t know it until both parents died. However, it was known among the rest of the family. My step-daughter had a hearing impaired child, so they decided to adopt another hearing impaired child so they could use the skills they needed for one with both. I grew up ‘knowing’ that Jean was my sister, and after my parents died, I learned that she was actually my cousin. And two great-grandsons who were adopted by their father’s brother. Lots of adoptions in my family.

    Next, the sibling question. My dad was married 3 times, and my mom was married twice, and there were kids involved with each of them. So my half-siblings were 18, 19, 20, 31, and 33 when I was born, and I already had 2 nephews and a niece. Because of the age difference, I really didn’t know much about them. But I’m closer to my nieces, who are about my age.

  2. I have 3 half siblings, one from my mom and two from my father, we all grew up apart. After Mom was killed a month before I turned 2, my maternal grandparents raised me while Mandy’s father got her, she was only 9 weeks old. Then when I was 16 my gramps died and I went looking for my father. Found out he had 2 other kids Dakota got stuck with our father when their mom took off a few weeks after giving birth. Jesse was the youngest who lived with his mom. I met them when I was 17 and they were 5 & 3. Mandy ended up a narcissist who uses people and always plays the victim, nothing is ever her fault. Dakota came out as Trans a few years ago, never got much of a chance to know them and they cut contact and disabled social media a while back. Jesse I also haven’t had much contact with but seems to be a typical young man that likes to spend time outside and drink with his friends. Where as me I am a single mom with trust issues and am a homebody. So yeah we are all very different.

  3. I don’t have siblings. Instead, I have a life-long best friend who’s like a sister to me. We’re as different as night & day, but we still have a lot in common. Even her mom will introduce me as her “surrogate” or “other” daughter!

  4. I had two older sisters and a younger brother. The oldest is very maternal. The second oldest (now deceased) was selfish and all about herself. My brother is charming and easy going. I don’t fit in any of those categories.

  5. I have one brother. We are like night and day. We don’t look related at all and we have very different personalities and lifestyles.

  6. I have 6 siblings – 4 brothers and 2 sisters. We are different in many ways.

  7. I have an older brother and a younger sister. I am much different than my siblings. My husband always teases me that I am adopted!

  8. I have a younger brother. We used to be really close, but things changed after our parents got divorced and then changed even more when our mother died. I have always tried to be the ‘pleaser’ and my brother has gotten into trouble a lot and usually blames others and not himself. He is always looking to make money quick. He wants to know everything about me and my kids, but he never wants to share about himself. He was very put out last year when both our dad and me got remarried. He seems to resent my spouse a great deal and I am not sure if he has gotten fonder of our new stepmom. I have also noticed that my brother can get angry very quickly at the slightest thing. I keep praying that things will get better, and I guess that is all any of us can do.

  9. I have an older sister and a younger brother. My sister and I are a lot alike. We both have always loved to read. but she doesn’t read much anymore. She is three and a half years older but we are best friends to this day. My brother is almost 5 years younger than me but we have a wonderful relationship too. When we were young we played outside all the time. I would play in the dirt with his cars and trucks he had.
    We all still live in the same town just about 3 miles apart. We don’t get to see our brother as much because he’s a truck driver but sometimes he calls me when he’s got a long drive and we talk for two to three hours at a time. Our mother is still living and will be 88 in November and she lives here in our little city too. My sister and her husband’s been divorced close to 3 years so she lives with our mom. My husband passed away in August of 2021 and that was devastating but God has helped me. We are really close to my brother’s wife too. She’s a sweetheart and will help us older ones with whatever we need. We’ve always been a close family and when our daddy passed away 10 years ago it really was heartbreaking.

  10. I have a brother who was adopted. Hes older than me by over 4 years and we are so different. He was the sport star and very good academically. He was the school captain the popular kid etc. I was everything but that. I wasn’t good at sport I tried but wasn’t good. I was average academically it wasn’t easy for me and I definitely wasn’t in the popular group. When it came to fixing things or using my hands I am better. He also had the allergies (hayfever, allergy to eggs) I didn’t. He is tall I am not.

  11. I have 2 brothers and 2 sisters. We have many similarities, but also vast differences. I believe that life experiences play into your personality, as much or almost as much as how you are raised. We are and have always been very close and are there for each other. Though we live miles apart, we get together when we can.

  12. I have 1 brother 16 months younger than myself and 2 sisters born 10 and 12 years after myself and my brother. IWe have a lot of difference as well as similarities. We talk once a month together and then text often. All of us are are crafty in one way or another thanks to our mother. I am the quiet one. My siblings are all more outspoken than me.

  13. Both. One of Three living children. I share more similarities with my youngest sister. But, I am also very different from both of them as well.

  14. I am the oldest of 4, 3 girls and 1 boy. We all have/had some similarities and more differences as we all have different personalities and preferences. We each chose very different paths through life and have had different experiences. We even have different memories of our childhood even though we were raised together.

  15. I am 1 of 3 girls… myself and 1 sister look like my mom, my other sister looks like my dad… all 3 of us are so different in our personalities…

  16. I have ALWAYS been different from my 5 siblings, 4 brothers and 1 sister. They always teased me about being adopted. Recently I found out that we have the same mother, but I had a different father. Then I found out that I had 10 other 1/2 siblings, 6 brothers and 4 sisters, that I never knew about. From the things that I have learned from the one sister I have chatted with, I think that out of them all, I am still very different! But then I AM an only child of my two parents. It was weird to find out, but so liberating at the same time! To finally know WHY I am so different, in looks, personality, strengths and interests, has given me more freedom to just be ME! And after 68 years, THAT is a real gift!

  17. I am the oldest of five, and we are all very different people. I started a group chat a few years ago, and it’s constantly going. Everyone is currently in town, staying at my parents property, and yet I woke up to almost twenty new messages this morning! I am 25 and a mathematical, observant, problem solver. The next in line is my passionate, introverted, and caring sister (23) . She pours her life out to the point of exhaustion. The next (19) is my brother who has been running a business since he was three years old. He dreams big, but is very logical. He will probably be a millionaire before 30. We almost lost him to meckel’s diverticulum a few years ago. That was terrifying. The brother after that (16) is musical and loves to debate everything. He tours with a VBS traveling band every summer, and we all miss how fun he is, even if he’s a little loud. And finally, the youngest sister (11) is extroverted, curious, and loves to be in the middle of everything going on. She’s also the most stylish out of all of us. All of us are Christians and love God and each other. We all call the others our best friends, but we are definitely very different people.

  18. Yes, I have two sisters and one brother who are living. I lost a baby sister and brother when they were babies. I am the second oldest. My brother is just younger than me. In some ways we are alike. All of us keep in touch with each other now that both of our parents are gone.

  19. there were three of us. One had wanderlust always moving to the newest greatest place to live and work, then a couple of years later be in search of a new greatest place, again. Two loved affluence and loved to flaunt wealth. Three average, wanted enough wealth to meet all ‘needs’ and the once-in-a-while ‘want’ meanwhile happiest at home although did enjoy occasional trips to see other places.

  20. I was the middle girl out of a family of 9 – 5 girls and 4 boys. Dad was a minister who loved to share the word by speaking and singing. All of us have different interests and skills. I was happiest when I could spend time reading in my room when a teenager. Dad and mom encouraged each of us to learn many different things using our hands, heads and hearts.

  21. I have a brother and a sister. We all had different interests and skills but I think our core values and characters are the same. That may just be from upbringing though.

  22. I have 2 sisters one 5 years older than me and one 5 years younger. I am nothing like them. The younger one is very t
    Crafty. The older one is a Wizz on the kitchen
    I love to read and l love being social.

  23. Hi Lyn,
    I have/had 3 older brothers and 2 older sisters. We are similar in a lot of ways especially in that family is/ was important to all of us. The four oldest are/were always very close as my parents moved around a lot when they were growing up. Three of us have always seemed to be a little more independent. Some of us were more athletic growing up but we all love playing games. Overall I’d say we are both very similar and yet very different individuals but we love each other a lot!

  24. Hi Lyn! I’m the only daughter of four children. We were kinda born in sets – my two older brothers (2 years between them) then me and my youngest brother (1-1/2 years between us) with six years between the sets. I’m the third born child. I’m somewhat similar to my next to the oldest brother. We are both very outgoing, caring and were the “know-it-alls” of the family. At least, I was like that until the Lord Jesus saved me and then I found out I knew nothing! ? Because of that we didn’t get along well until I came to faith in Lord Jesus and He humbled me and taught me how to get along with him. My other 2 brothers are very different but we get along very well. I’m very grateful for all three of my brothers. Growing up with then was quite the experience – fun and challenging.

  25. I have two brothers and two sisters who are younger than me. I was always the quiet and shy sibling who never got into trouble. I preferred staying in my bedroom to read, work on crafts, or put jigsaw puzzles together. My siblings would run around outdoors or get into trouble. There are only six years between my youngest sister and myself so we are all close and talk by phone weekly since we live miles apart and are all senior citizens now.

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